Category: Relationships
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What’s a Friend to Me?
I had no idea how much my life was going to change when I got the phone call about Vasil. All the promises we made during the pandemic to see each other instantly became moot. Beyond the shock and denial of his death, my brain went into an existential spiral–re-evaluating life priorities and who I was choosing to keep around as friends.
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How I Navigate Having a Partner with ADHD
When I met my anchor partner, I didn’t know anything about ADHD.After decades of developing his identity and habits, he started asking things like, “So what’s me, and what’s my ADHD? What’s wrong with me?”
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The Startup of You
Re-entering the world of dating after divorce felt like launching my own startup, except that startup was me. For months, I was trying to build the perfect product in stealth mode–doing therapy, getting stronger through pole, focusing on my new job, and fostering a community of friends.
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My Brain on ENM: Lessons Learned From Non-Monogamy
In just one year of this new identity, I’ve become super intimate with my brain. I can’t fathom how I processed life before, or what it was like not to know these five things.
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Rising to the Occasion: The Peter Principle in Relationships
People become paralyzed when context switching all the time, much like a balloon getting stuck in a tree.
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One Day More: How Setting Daily Intentions Got Me Through My Divorce
It feels shameful to admit, but 2020 was the best year of my life. The pandemic forced me (well, everyone) to sit with their own thoughts and feelings. All my needs, self-care, and boundaries I’d been neglecting were finally letting out a bloodcurdling scream and begging to be addressed.
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The Self-Imposed Stress of Being Superwoman
Already because of COVID-19, my full-time salary is cut by 20% and I’m working 25+ hours of customer support each week. This means less flexibility in my schedule, specifically not being able to work out as much. I feel weaker and more tired, discouraged at my backward progress in pole. Anxiety reigns over any feelings of achievement.
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What Quarantine Is Teaching Me About Myself and My Marriage
As the “current situation” rages on, I’ve had an uncomfortable amount of time to reflect on my life. This abundance of thought leads me to revisit my personal blog for some productive emotional processing. Like any good speech or essay, I’ve condensed my random musings into three ways I’ve mentally benefited from this crazy COVID-19 quarantine.