Tag: therapy
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My Brain on ENM: Lessons Learned From Non-Monogamy
In just one year of this new identity, I’ve become super intimate with my brain. I can’t fathom how I processed life before, or what it was like not to know these five things.
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Goddammit, I’m Just Like My Parents
What if my parents had raised me more traditionally and reinforced this Asian elitism? How would it affect the way I see and interact with other human beings? I started wondering what behaviors and mindsets I did inherit from them.
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Rising to the Occasion: The Peter Principle in Relationships
People become paralyzed when context switching all the time, much like a balloon getting stuck in a tree.
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What Does My Authentic Self Look Like?
San Francisco has always been my litmus test for change. While the city stayed relatively the same throughout my life, my identity drastically evolved over the years. The child that spent Christmas holidays in the Sunset District could never have foreseen coming back at the age of 30, newly divorced and openly non-monogamous.
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Daring to Set Boundaries
What if we took everyone else out of the equation and drew lines around our own wants and needs? What would it look like to respectfully advocate for ourselves and allow others to be responsible for their feelings?
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Befriending My Inner Madwoman
I’ve only started exploring the concept of identifying and reinforcing boundaries with friends and family, especially when someone claims to make a statement out of love but is ACTUALLY shame. Standing up for myself in these instances has inspired me to look in the mirror… If I’m not okay with others saying these things to me, why do I say them to myself?
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One Day More: How Setting Daily Intentions Got Me Through My Divorce
It feels shameful to admit, but 2020 was the best year of my life. The pandemic forced me (well, everyone) to sit with their own thoughts and feelings. All my needs, self-care, and boundaries I’d been neglecting were finally letting out a bloodcurdling scream and begging to be addressed.
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Why I Wish I Got Into More Trouble as a Kid
I think to myself, “Maybe if I’d gotten into more trouble as a kid or was punished for stupid little things… I’d be better about taking feedback?” Grass is always greener on the other side, so I’m unsure but would love to hear other perspectives on the topic. My college roommates swear by being spanked as a kid, and that just blows my mind.
Stefanie Chow 